With the increase in divorce cases between men and the tangible spread of marital problems, especially those in which women accuse their husbands of neglect, indifference, preoccupation and other accusations, several calls started by many women and even girls are on the verge. to marry, accommodated. the slogan “Enjoy the man’s money and leave him for his whims” instead of Turning the marriage house into a field of conflicts, disputes and liability.
Those who are about to get married see that this principle might be a justification for them to look for men who are full of money .. Marriage, also not won that compensates her after divorce.
Abeer Al Salem says that “the man has power and money, but he controls the woman, restricts her freedom and acts arrogantly with her just because he is a man and only because she is a woman. Therefore women at least think .
And she adds, “Men’s mistakes have become many. Some of them place the full burden of responsibility on the woman, and are either busy with their work if he loves him and neglects her, or spends his nights with his friends, or engaged in their work.with her and his house with his distractions, and when attempts at understanding do not result, the woman will have no choice but to throw everything It aside, and for the money the man provides , so she can buy jewelry, clothes, and a car, travel, and invite her friends to a restaurant or entertainment, or whatever she wants, as long as the money is there. ”
Her friend Manal Al-Mohammed agrees with her. To have fun and let go of accountability, controversy and even jealousy. ”
not to be exploited
In exchange for promoting this idea, some men believe that if marriage is based on the side of material interests, it is beyond its concept, and Khaled Mahdi says: “Amour is the basis of marriage, and the man’s feeling that all the wife’s worries are about getting money will lead to an inevitable end of this marriage, even if it The husband is rich and can provide his wife with everything she desires It is not at all acceptable for a man to does not feel that he is being exploited. ”
Many men refuse the idea of ”enjoy money and leave it to his whims,” explaining that it is a purely materialistic idea, and it is not welcome, and that the married woman should accept what she sees as a defect regard. in the man and work to change it for the better.As far as she leaves the man to stay with friends, Or you make too many demands, as it is according to them rejected issues. Because a marriage that depends on money does not last.
Sami Al-Barrak says that “there are some girls who prefer money and prefer a bond with a rich man, even if he has bad behavior and traits under the pretext that his money covers his shortcomings. It will not achieve happiness not, but there must be love and mercy so that the marriage can take place. “
Samia Kamal, specialist in self-development and family relationships, explains that “the marital relationship, which is built on a spiritual void and is disrespectful, is a relationship that may not last, and can lead to divorce, and the wife must have a great effort to correct the man’s personality so that they can build a good family and children. Also, a man should not see that his wealth and money are sufficient, so his behavior and his behavior do not matter, but he should respect himself and his family, and believe in his home a life based on love and respect.
And she adds, “The marital relationship that is without feelings of love and responsibility will not last. When the woman grows up and grows, she will see her years and the age of her children between money, jewelry, cars and palaces wasted., while she did not reach herself as a patient wife and a conscious mother, but if the common denominator is money, not love.and if money is all other options before, it is not acceptable. “
The essential foundation
Psychologist Najla Al-Braithan believes that “the main pillar in married life is stability, and when we lose it, especially when the husband neglects his wife, and when she tries to fix him but fails, we need to look at several things. :
First and foremost, his neglect is the result of ethical issues like drug abuse or illicit relationships and others, and here even if she has children, from my point of view if the situation does not work out, then separation is better for her.
Second, if his neglect was due to his obsession with his business and so on, then she should carry the situation here and continue her life with him because it is temporary, and it will go away later.
Third, if she is neglected for other reasons, and she has children, she has a choice. If she can tolerate and live with him and her children and not distract them, then it’s better, and if she can not , she must divorce.
Married life shows a lot of stagnation of feelings, neglect, emotional separation and problems, and it’s like a boat in the sea, rising once and down another time, but when the oars break due to the intensity of the waves , driving the boat becomes impossible, and we must understand that every life is different from the others, and that nature is different. It is different, because there are those who sacrifice and others who do not care. “