Umm Hassan and the Fragile Masculinity – Jihan Abu Zayd

Posted on: Tuesday, May 3, 2022 – 19:25 | Last updated: Tuesday, 3 May 2022 – 19:25

Like all the neighbors, she sent us a small box of sweets, on top of a picture of a laughing child, accompanied by “You lift the world up, Hassan” and signed “Umm Hassan.” Since that day, the name of Mrs. Laila, our neighbor, the engineer who owns the cartoon factory, has changed to “Umm Hassan.” Before Hassan’s birth, she gave birth to three daughters, but none of them deserved to send sweets to neighbors or a giant feast as Hassan witnessed on his seventh day. The compass of life changed into The House of Our Neighbor and Hassan became in the midst of the events, but he became the maker of events and on the basis of which decisions are made. What happened is that Hassan became the only visible person in the family.
It is not surprising that Hassan deserves this exceptional celebration as he is the male newborn who will leave a mark for the family in human history. He is the protector of fever when he attacks the invaders. He has a rough voice that suggests toughness and toughness. for the mother and female sisters, he is undoubtedly the winner in every battle that life imposes, and despite his frequent obstacles, Hassan did not lose his position in the family, but rather became authoritarian and violent as his fragility increased.
The series “Faten Amal Harbi” sheds light on the fragile masculinity left behind by current culture. It paints a picture we all know of the man – Saif al-Dandarawi – who grew up spoiled and surrounded by the care of ‘ a mother who thought his masculinity was enough to make him a man.He did not learn to give but became addicted to receiving, and when he started a family, the culture through his mother for him indicated that cruelty and violence are a sign of masculinity.
Umm Hassan wronged her only son, just like Mrs. of the avalanche of losses needed to reproduce the image, and in an attempt to identify the models produced by education.Australian sociologist Raewyn Connell distinguished between four models of masculinity created by culture and began with what she called hegemonic masculinity, in which men were trained in the rules of male domination and domination, especially over women and all who were considered inferior, and required to have a prominent job and financial support, which Manhood is stabbed to death – in this category – if they lose money or work.
The second type of masculinity is complicit masculinity, which includes men who are unable to achieve the causes of power, but who support the protective culture of men’s superiority. Even if they do not possess tools for domination and power at public level, possess their tools provided by unfair laws and daily policies and cultural practices.
Then comes the third type, which the researcher called marginalized masculinity, which includes men from marginalized social groups for ethnic, political or even health reasons, such as disability.They do not actually have the ability to turn it into a tangible profit. which changes their position and stops their marginalization, and in their search for balance they abuse women, children and everyone they think of as weakness. Finally, the fourth type, which he called his vulnerable masculinity, and in which it included men suffering from hormonal confusion.
What then combines the four models classified by the Australian researcher? Their fragility unites them as the four models live under the roof of a general culture laden with bombastic messages that strike at the humanity of men and the dignity of women. The culture that overshadows everyone says that the man is a preferred generation, to grow up with a false illusion of excellence, quickly denied by the facts of life, to become trapped in despair and frustration and then explode in violence, and to allow violence is the second message that the culture sends, you may be cruel and abusive, you are allowed to mobilize the anger ball to its fullest And blow it up in the face of the first victim, then send the culture through the family and on its multiple platforms another message about the connection of masculinity with superiority and power; The man must struggle to excel, to build muscle to stay the strongest, with the most powerful physique. Culture emphasizes hierarchy, feeds feelings of competition and jealousy, and reinforces violence and threat as necessary tools for sovereignty and possession of to achieve power, and because power requires prestige and maintaining the necessary distance to distinguish the holder of power from others – and we all remember C. Sir And so on – it also means unity or survival in small groups that feed each other, but not able to interact. with other components of society.
What the researcher did not review is the group of men who are above principles, have a lot of mercy, seek justice, have the courage to admit mistakes and have the ability to apologize. Among us is a group of men who are not afraid is that all people will acquire their rights, and do not need authority or domination, but are the happiest among the group. And with them, among us, men who do not accept violence as a way of dealing with others, men who do not need it. spoiled or false preference, but strives to leave a beneficial impact. We need to get to know these disabilities and introduce them to them, to present another picture of the human being who does not struggle and is not engaged in wars, and does not hide behind denial to hide his failure. Yes, drama can rebel against itself and stop promoting fragile masculinity.

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