homeland Men and women’s sexual desires differ from each other, and there are several factors that explain this.
There are many questions that are asked for psychological or physiological reasons, and to answer them, the French magazine “Sante Mag” conducted an interview with the doctor who specializes in clinical or clinical psychology and sexologist, Sebastien Garnero.
Do both sexes feel the same sexual needs, and are they considered inferior to women?
If we believe the polls, both in terms of facts and from their perspective, we are convinced that women have less desire to make love:
The percentage of women who experience these disorders before menopause varies from 11 to 33% and from 33 to 53% thereafter.
More than 1 in 3 women will also experience psychological distress associated with diminished desire or diminished attention.
Only 1 to 3% of men express desire disorders, with a marked increase by age 50.
In terms of perception of sexual needs by gender:
In the main national survey “The context of sexuality in France”: 73% of women and 59% of men of all generations complied with the following statement: “Men have more sexual needs than women and this is a natural fact.”
Why such a big difference in perception of desire?
If a woman’s needs seem less important than a man’s, What are the reasons??
- Physiological explanations: From birth, the boy is more in contact with his external organs and is therefore easier to identify.
Later, his sexual arousal will be clearer as he will appear in the erection process.
On the other hand, the young girl does not see her hidden female genitals and will have to try more to understand her body and sexuality on her own.
In addition, women have learned since the beginning of the world to accept frustration more.
In fact, they can not force a man to have intercourse, so they wait for his erection to process. It enforces the ability to adapt and accept.
- Strong hormonal effect: Menstruation, motherhood and menopause affect a woman’s desire.
For example, women are a little stronger before ovulation or during menstruation. Estrogen therefore positively affects sexual desire.
Conversely, prolactin (associated with milk secretion) tends to have an inhibitory effect on sexual desire.
This is why, in addition to the basic psychological concern of the mother (the psychological process in the first six months of the child), in the first months of breastfeeding, a decrease in sexual desire can be observed in a significant proportion of women. (After giving birth, some may give up sex by force, choice, or default.)
Finally, with menopause, we will usually see a decrease in sexual desire and intimacy, which sometimes also occurs more strongly in some women.
Underestimate the desires of women
In fact, libido and libido are often confused, and moreover, as Sebastian Garnero explains, the terms “desire” and “libido” are mistakenly taken as synonyms.
“Sexual desire, however, is related to more sexual appetite and the desire to make love in the instinctive sense of the term, with an energy that pushes towards something sexual that is not always identifiable. Instinct refers to an energy that is driven through the desire to make love to a specific person. (We want intimacy with someone in particular). ” According to the expert
In this sense, one can say that the constant drive for sexual desire (biological / psychological) is more in the man while the libido (psychological / biological) on the part of the woman will be stronger. In addition, her sexual desire will be more based on the psychological and emotional aspect of love.
Reduce the desire of men in women:
According to the magazine, a study done in May 2016 showed that men do not perceive the signals of a woman’s desire and therefore underestimate her.
They wanted sex but did not show it clearly enough for their husbands to feel. Men and women therefore have the same needs and desires, but they will not express them in the same way.
Instinct and desire: a cultural question and personal history more than gender
In fact, apart from having sex, the relationship we have with sexual desire and instinct depends a lot on our culture and education.
According to the expert: “In practice we can also see that some women have a strong or at least more important sexual desire than their husbands. These women often have a more liberated relationship with their bodies, better knowledge of their pleasure patterns and access to their own fantasy world, the real psychological driver of their sex drive. They therefore have more perceived sexual desires and are more demanding in terms of sexual activity. ”
To be clearer: “When researching the basis of sexual desire in both men and women, many factors are involved, such as relationship to the body and sex, pleasure, etc.” Depending on each woman’s path, opening will be more or less difficult.
In a nutshell, if it generally seems like men want more sex than women, it is partly explained by physiological and hormonal aspects, but also from a psychological and cultural point of view.