It’s love that killed. How does a lover turn into a murderer?

Translation: Sarah Zayed- Love is a healthy emotion that grows between two people as soon as they invest time and energy to get to know each other, other than what is known as emotional obsession, a psychological disorder that is translated as unhealthy feelings that grip the other party’s stranglehold narrowed over time.

When two people fall in love, they retain their identity and uniqueness, and are not threatened by the other, especially when one chooses to spend time with family or friends without always including the other with them.

With emotional mania, it becomes impossible for a person to be alone even for a short time without their partner; The maniac feels in an irrational way the physical need to be the “living substance” of his partner.

This is when negative emotions and paranoia start to creep in and destroy the relationship.

Emotional mania .. verbal and physical abuse

Often the obsessive person may be verbal and physically abusive towards the other person, and may afterwards express much remorse, but always blame their partner for bringing the abuse to themselves.

Over time, the maniac reduces his partner to a helpless and weak individual.

A person who is in a relationship with a maniac may be mature enough to realize their suffocation and panic, but often after the relationship gets out of control, when it becomes difficult to remove the self from the relationship, especially without feeling much remorse, much fear and danger too.

In extreme cases of emotional mania, the obsessive person may expose their partner to verbal or physical abuse, rape, stalking or even murder.

Common explanations for a man’s murder of his partner

All male killers claim to have committed their crimes against their partners out of love because they are murder the product of excessive love.

In “In the Name of Love: Romantic Ideology and Its Victims,” ​​Rohava Gusinski proposes a specific approach to understanding this horrific phenomenon, where different explanations for a man’s murder share two common assumptions:

– That murder stems from “male power”, and that jealousy and anger are two main feelings that provoke it.
The murder is the culmination of the history of violence that preceded it.

Many, however, believe that the explanation of murder with reference to “male power” is simplistic and fragmentary; Although masculinity plays a role in a whole range of factors that create a complete willingness to kill a partner, the motive for murder should always be considered in terms of conditions conducive to the development of violence, as there are complex risk situations is, much of which is an integral part of romantic ideology.

Motive for partner murder for men:

A man sees a woman as his whole world, so he feels that any separation from her involves the loss of his identity.

Man’s life lacks other sources of “meaning and reasons for life”.

The superficial man’s perception of masculinity, which enforces his full power and control, completely contradicts the dependence of his life on his partner, which makes this dependence make irrefutable evidence of his weakness, humiliation and insult to himself disappear.

The personal behavior of a man is characterized by stubbornness and rigidity.

When all of the above conditions are met in a man, the risk of killing a woman increases dramatically, and the man often has these thoughts when his partner threatens to divorce him.

Romantic ideology and murder

Given the centrality of love in our lives, it is no wonder that cultures around the world have portrayed an idealized form of romantic love that we are all supposed to walk after.

Many civilizations considered love to be crucial to self-fulfillment, yet love is a major factor that also causes misery for people; Because it involves great disappointments, love can be a wonderful feeling, but it hurts so much, and it can be dangerous enough to lead some to violent acts.

Similarly, suicide over love is not an unusual story, some even consider it an ideal manifestation of true love.
Because of unrequited love, men commit suicide 3 to 4 times more often than women, and it is almost always men who kill their partners when they decide to leave them. In this sense, women are more realistic and more receptive to the fact that love may not last forever.

Love for murderers

In most cases, killers are the most vulnerable partners, especially when the wife is stable, independent, and strong, and the husband is fragile and out of control.

This type of man, accustomed to subordination, will always feel the need to withdraw power from a woman’s grip.

“She was a source of existence for me because I had nothing else to declare about my control, I had to control her, I had to kill her,” says one of the killers.

For him, controlling the source of existence is like controlling the supply of oxygen to the patient who needs it, to ensure its existence.

A man who killed his partner is just weakness!

A man who kills his partner out of weakness rather than strength. A man who has nothing more to lose is more entitled to reckless conduct than a person hoping to hold on.

In this sense, the one who has lost everything has a “privilege” over the one who still has much to lose.

Thus weakness becomes a source of strength for the murderer; The deeper the despair, the greater the power it evokes.

From this perspective, the final use of force to the point of murder is merely an expression of the man’s total weakness and loss.

Needless to say, explaining a man’s horrific behavior as out of love is by no means a justification for his actions, but to understand a man’s state of mind can prevent future murders, and therefore we must studying psychology that drives him to kill his partner. .

Invitations to kill!

In the name of love, women want to leave their partners
In the name of love, these men kill them.

To a murderer, a woman is his whole world and a condition of his existence, so if a man’s ability to maintain his view of himself as a human being depends on a woman being a part of his life, how can he let her go?

Thus, love turns a woman into a hostage, a hostage of a man’s life, endangering her life.

Many love songs or romantic overflowing soaps and movies may be nothing more than clichés about romantic love, but when these clichés are embraced with devotion without the slightest concern about reality, love becomes a weapon on the shoulders. (agencies)

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