Words and Behaviors That “Harm” Patients – Al-Ahram Gate

No one harms a patient “intentionally”, we disclose “ordinary” words and behaviors that harm the patient.

We start by “flooding” him with medical advice; He ignored that the doctor had told him a lot and needed a good time; And not for “lectures” on self-care, taking medication on time and being in good spirits for speedy recovery; He is tired and needs rest. Let’s remind him of this with quick “flashes” that do not exceed half a minute; Let’s imagine a patient who receives one or more readings from each visitor and receives them patiently and in pain, and when he “explodes” with anger, they accuse him of lack of endurance !!

Some deliberately make jokes with the patient to “improve” his mood; There is nothing wrong with the condition that you follow up on his reaction and stop if he refuses, and “worse” is to forget him and joke with the visitors as if they met at a party and not by a “human” to visit that in pain.

We think of it as suggesting to the patient that his illness is simple or that he is strong and can handle it; To “go” pain !! .. and we will not like it when we are sick; Why do we expect others to accept it ?! He will be angry if he does not say so, and he will feel that they do not feel his pain or “accuse” him of exaggeration; It hurts him psychologically and can pressure him to refuse visits and not answer phone calls, so he is isolated and worsens his condition instead of helping him.

The disease should be treated as a fact, not an illusion to be ignored; Do we “remove” the filth with a desire to succeed, or do we “remove” it?

It hurts the patient by underestimating his illness to “relieve” him; They increase his psychological pain, which increases physical pain. He sees himself as “required” to prove his pain and that he does not pretend or exaggerate.

Some people hurt him with sadness, as if they were writing his “death letter” to prove their deep love and sadness over his illness; Moderation is required.

Others burden him by asking him about the details of his illness and the type of treatment, and they cause him to overload him; What is worse is to express conflicting opinions about the diagnosis and treatment, as well as the doctors and medical specialties required, causing the patient to be “skeptical” about the treatment and delay recovery.

We recommend that you avoid this and pass on the notes to his family members and do not harm him.

The “ugliest” is his question about what he did before the illness, and it is clear that the questioner wants to protect himself !! He can search for the causes of the disease through “Google” and during the visit focus on giving the patient a pleasant feeling of caring and love; It’s his turn.

Some deliberately tell – in good faith – “painful” stories of patients who have suffered greatly in more painful cases; to have fun and feel better than them; He calms and “accepts” his illness psychologically and improves; It is unrealistic. So whoever suffers from a cold is “sure” that millions are suffering from a serious condition, and this does not change the fact that he can not leave his bed and perform his normal actions with ease. He is not ungrateful; He is in pain and does not need anyone to tell him about the disasters of the world to make him feel like he is a “spoiled” child !!

We want to banish exaggeration of empathy and amazement at his deteriorating health or weight loss; To avoid this, let us know his state of health, even if it is critical; We “expect” that his appearance will change, and we do not harm him with astonishment, and do not treat him as if his illness were simple. If he wanted to talk about his bad condition, we listen with love and respect, and not “with pity.” The latter hurts him, and we reassure him in moderation.

Let’s avoid dressing up when visiting a patient and not wearing perfume; It hurts him, and Eva does not exaggerate with cosmetics or accessories, and we do not go as if we are going to attend a funeral most of the time of the visit by frown or silence, as if we are as a duty and a burden and not with love and friendship.

We do not tire him out with phone calls and “look” at his voice; If he is stressed or unwelcome, let us end the call quickly without making him angry; It is his right to rest.

Let’s choose the gift well, because we know it makes him happy. We can ask those close to him and take what he will enjoy and fit his state of health, and listen when – he wants – to talk about his illness or fears; It is his right, and we do not tell our experiences or the past experiences of others with the disease, nor do we tell him that if we were in your place, we would have done so and so; It irritates him, and it’s better. What do you think of doing so-and-so when you want to? We all hate urgency, whether it is for our own benefit or for whom we trust, and the patient is more sensitive.

We avoid blaming him for neglecting his health in the past and causing illness, even if he did; This is not the right time and we remind him of his recovery with kindness and in one sentence and without blame by paying attention to himself and preventing the recurrence of his health crisis.

We do not tell him what irritates him or talk about those he does not love, even though we want to tell him that they wish him strength, and do not disturb his mind; It is not one of his priorities in his illness to improve his relationship with them; And he will be upset even if he does not tell us, but when he asks for them, we briefly tell him that they care for him and pray for his recovery.

if his illness is serious; Does not show empathy or assure him that medicine has advanced a lot; He will be upset, and we will talk to him about topics we trust he likes about her, and we control our feelings so that we do not make him feel as if she is approaching death, so we harm him.

He may pretend to be ready not to complain; Let us respect his desire and avoid pressure on him to complain and not treat him “as if” he has recovered, and talk to him about other matters and do not prolong the visit.

If we want to leave quickly; We are not saying we have an important date; We feel that he is not important to us and we just go, and when he asks us to stay, we say we will come back soon and we stick to it and do not feel we should visit him.

if our relationship with him is not strong; We do not exaggerate in courtship and do not prolong the visit, and when he is old, we do not say that even young people are sick, it irritates him and does not relieve him as if we say to him “It is enough for you” that you lived.

Let us respect his concern for his health or his excessive fear of himself; We do not increase his anxiety by telling what supports his fear, nor do we deny it, nor do we give him lectures on patience or that he is better than others, and let us suffice by saying, we would like us to be “confident” that the Merciful will heal him and reward him with good.

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