Personalities who know the word “thank you” – Al-Madina Newspaper

In daily life, whether in the work or study environment, he encounters narcissistic personalities, who take selfishness and arrogance.. She makes no sacrifice for the sake of others, puts herself in priorities without completely caring for those around her, she hates the word “thank you” for those who render good services to him and may turn upside down. On the heels of the end of his interest in him, the selfish one is eager to ignore everyone around him and appears condescending even when the jewel is empty, and does not accept constructive criticism, often turning to anger and annoyance when opposed against his ideas of others, but wants those around him to say “well done” to him, claiming that he is the only one who thinks, plans, succeeds and is eager to appear among people by suggesting that he ‘ is a “unique personality, a writer, a poet and a thinker, and he has dozens of unique studies and books in different fields of culture, poetry, history, economics, psychiatry, and maybe space sciences, physics and chemistry!

Al-Madina discussed the phenomenon of the “narcissistic personality”, that being who loves himself and does not care about those around him, and always seeks to achieve his desires, even if it is at the expense of other people, and does not take consider the feelings or needs of others. And the causes of this phenomenon, and how to treat it, considering that what it commits is a mental illness that requires treatment, and how to protect society from this selfish trait?

In the beginning, many psychological studies focused on the character of selfishness in people, which led to many results, including what was done by the University of Groningen in the Netherlands, with a study that proved that people who strive for continuous success to achieve and looking for the best means and methods that help them to achieve success quickly More prone to selfishness and lack of cooperation with others, and Dr. Peter Berg indicated that the study is based on a group of people through their interaction with groups, and researchers at the University of Zurich in Switzerland conducted a study on the ratio of people prone to selfishness among men compared to women, which proved that women are more likely to be exposed to selfishness, and in another study published in the (jpsp) magazine, which was carried out on about 6000 people in Europe and the United States of America, which relied on the measurement of the positive in people and their impact on their selfishness, it indicated that those who enjoy positivity and feel with happiness, they are less prone to selfishness than others.

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Guys: We feel sad and sad when we deal with it

In a meeting with some young people who suffer from dealing with narcissistic personalities, Mohammed Rashid expressed his great sadness that he has a friend and cherishes him, and unfortunately he sees self-love and always talks about himself and does not want to hear anyone not, but instead interrupts the words of the person in front of him to talk about his achievements and dreams Nobody cares about “me and me”, even if he is the least talented.

Ahmed Abdel Samad indicates that he feels psychological pain when he sees these qualities in the people closest to him, especially when people want to listen to him in his words and the lights are cast on him and he feels happy, while Ali Yasser says that it character just wants the situation to come to his mood and tries to get away from some To show himself and when no one wants to hear him, or to say I don’t agree with you, he becomes arrogant.

Saud Abdullah picks up the conversation and says: “A sick person who likes to show herself and goes from one place to another to show that she is the only one who is influential, the best and the one with talents . Mona Seif believes that this type of personality is considered mentally ill because he just wants to be the only educated one who has the ability, while Mahmoud Abdullah points out that the presence of such a personality in the family is unfortunately “destructive”.

Besfar: arrogant, arrogant and obsessive-compulsive

The first social worker Hassan bin Sultan Basfar

Regarding the vision of the specialists in this type of personality, the first social worker, Hassan bin Sultan Basfar, points out that selfishness is known as the love of possession and the love of control, and that this narcissistic personality is the only one in is controlled. of all things, and selfishness makes a person look at the property of others and want to gain his position His possessions and other blessings that God has given him, a reprehensible quality that makes a person arrogant and arrogant, since it leads him to Following Satan’s whispers that urge him to harm others and to be the sole beneficiary.

He added, “In my opinion, selfishness, whether at work or in the family, and a person’s social position differ. Is his selfishness harmful to those around him or not? Since it is recognized that the selfish person likes to deal with discrimination and tends to individualism especially in work, closed, ungrateful to people. He is the person who loves himself and does not care about those around him, and it is a disease that kills his owner and makes him obsessively high to his achieving desires if it is at the expense of other people is not considered beneficial. In groups, because he only serves himself, then he is harmful to himself before others.”

And he added: “Its presence in society or the work environment is dangerous because he does not make any sacrifice to others and does not provide assistance, so he is an ineffective person. Tends to individualism, is insincere in his words, is not grateful to people and likes to deal with discrimination, this person prefers to stay away from him and tends to take risks for the sake of work in general.

And about the appropriate treatment in the event that selfishness is a disease, he said that it is better to go to a psychiatrist to help him get rid of selfishness, and nerves should not be lost when a selfish person , who is often a provocative person, do not have to deal with. personality.

Basfar adds: “Sometimes a person is selfish without feeling himself and in his belief that he is acting rationally and maturely, but those around him must warn him that he has gone too far and has led to harm in himself, as it it is possible for him to isolate himself from people and keep his thoughts and distance himself from sharing with those around him, and the selfish Someone who looks out for his own interest and well-being, of course, a selfish person who exceeds the limits and the well-being of ignore. others.”

Darren: A character you think is

Psychologist Dareen Al-Khumssy

“The Axis of the Universe” Darren Al-Khumssy, an expert in the psychological field and a certified trainer of the American Management Association, points out that some scholars have mentioned that man is naturally selfish because of his need for survival and satisfaction of desires In the human personality he moves away from self-centeredness and thinks of others, and this is what we instill in our children by teaching them the value of compassion and sympathy with others, such as sharing their toys, cutting bread with a girlfriend, or short stories that support the aspect of empathy and helping others.

She said the egotistical personality usually has difficulty expressing her ideas or exchanging information with others. In most cases, it is preferable to work alone. But this selfishness works against him.

So be careful if you have someone who you know is selfish, he may keep a lot of information to himself, but in the future he can use this information against you and the selfish character hates dealing with the team team and keeps the information for himself. The meanings of share, give, become rare words in his dictionary.

She explained that if you’re dealing with this character who believes she’s the “axe of the universe,” you first have to protect yourself and set the boundaries that protect you from comparisons, because you’re dealing with a person who just thinking of herself and her. desires, so don’t set yourself up in any way to compare and raise the ceiling of your expectations, because you simply cannot change others, but you can protect yourself from them and deal with caution. The real change comes from within the person. In case of a selfish personality, you will inevitably change by following the good steps for change.

And she said that treatment has good steps to overcome selfishness, and there is no mistake to change, but the mistake is not to change and continue to focus on the self, so that you don’t get frustrated to change, since there is always room for everything and there is no late time to achieve anything.

Al-Harthy: Parents can cultivate “selfishness” by pampering the child

The educational expert, Faisal Al-Harthy

The educational expert, Faisal Al-Harthy, points out that the one who instills the selfish personality, the parents are the ones who instill this personality in the child, starting by differentiating him from his brothers and exaggerating his actions in a way that and excludes and glorifies others around him, then the surrounding community and it is difficult to deal with him, but if we understand theories of human behavior, we can find ways to deal with him, his narcissistic orientation has gradually changed. This is also difficult for this character to change, but it is not impossible. This character usually appears at the beginning of adolescence, and family problems undoubtedly play a role, but the main role revolves around the maximization of the family for this person and around him to let narcissism be practiced and that he is the center. of the universe without paying attention to the seriousness It is on its future.

Faisal said that the symptoms of the narcissistic personality revolve around age and that he is the center of the universe and that he makes a unilateral decision and attributes every achievement to himself and does not care about the feelings of others and exceeds all norms to his goal This person believes that everyone has skills that can surpass him and that he needs to expand his mind to accept that result.

The main characteristics of a narcissist:

  • He attributes his bad qualities to others
  • self-centered
  • He always thinks he deserves special treatment
  • Very friendly and soft on the surface
  • Laziness, isolation and the need for attention and pampering
  • Full readiness to use others
  • He rarely says thank you
  • A false personality, especially when talking to others
  • He tries to confuse and confuse you
  • He plays with your feelings and makes you think you don’t do enough for him
  • He hates working with a team
  • Always think of himself
  • He has a tendency to cover up for others
  • He gets angry when others do not meet his demands

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