Responsibilities that young people realize early on.. has the pandemic left its traces in their behaviour?

Mona Abu Hammour

After two and a half years from the beginning of the spread of the Corona pandemic, to the control of this fierce virus that has changed the details of people’s lives, many habits and behaviors have developed in children, especially those that they have incurred the quarantine periods. and closures that the world saw at that time.

Different skills, more responsible behavior and new habits that were not practiced by children before the Corona pandemic and are currently being established in them, so that children can be real partners and helpers in household tasks.

Decorating the room and helping to clean the kitchen are some of the skills Shahd (10 years old) acquired during the Corona pandemic, as well as her high sense of responsibility for her mother after the great pressure exerted by the pandemic.

Shahd’s mother drew attention to the nature of the conditions imposed by the Corona pandemic, including electronic education for her children, at a time when she was forced to go to work, and her children stayed at home, their followed electronics classes and did their homework, and help her with household chores.

Umm Shahd says, “I never expected my daughter to be able to do household chores or even rely on herself to manage her household and school affairs,” noting that she believed that these skills quarantine and distance learning are connected, and that only returning to daily life would return in everything. For the former, however, the situation was surprising to her.

Wafaa Mukhled agreed with her, who did not expect the pandemic to have a good impact on her three children, change their behavior and make a big difference in their daily lives.

Arranging their own room, taking care of their studies, helping to clean the house, and others are some of the tasks that Wafaa’s children used to do, and they continued even after returning to normal life.

This was confirmed by a new study published by “CNN” on the role of the “Covid 19” pandemic in children bearing more responsibility, and closures, distance learning and quarantine, according to the study, have troublesome restrictions on children’s physical freedoms placed, and this limited their opportunities to do different things on their own outside the home.

The study indicates that most of this effect in “maturity” is related to how to “make independent decisions, and handle difficult situations on your own when necessary,” according to Karen van Osdal, senior practice manager at CASEL, who is based in Chicago. American.

You may feel that teaching preschoolers to arrange their clothes, or put food on their own plate, is a far cry from the independence they will need to master in adolescence and adulthood, but there is a connection; Where children learn to have confidence in themselves, and take their own affairs literally.

Learning how to pack a backpack or put breakfast cereal on a plate can develop children’s independence, but parents need to help them figure out how these seemingly simple tasks connect them, according to Maurice G. Elias, professor in psychology from Rutgers University. ” , and co-authored a book that talks about those skills.

Care must be taken to frame a new skill so that children see themselves playing a greater role in their families and communities.

The study points out that the usefulness of doing family work, or household chores and tasks, is never underestimated. These are more than just random tasks; This is an example of interdependence, when children clean up their clothes, or bake something with just a little help needed, they not only feel proud that they have mastered a new task, they feel good about their contribution to the well-being of the whole family.

The family consultant, Mofeed Sarhan, shows that the Corona pandemic has had significant effects on various sectors, and has had a greater impact on social relations, although in most cases the focus is on the negative and damage that accompanied the pandemic and still is, whether it is at the level of individuals, families or associations or countries, but the difficult circumstances that a person goes through teach many things from them.

“Life is a school.” The most important thing is that a person learns lessons, increases his expertise and experience, and is eager to overcome adversity with the least damage. And learning and benefit is not limited to adults, but children also have the ability to learn – perhaps more than adults – in some aspects, especially when they find support and support from parents and older siblings.

The period of curfew and staying at home was an opportunity to be present for long periods in which individuals came closer to each other, realized that the family is the safe haven, and the warm embrace in which they rest.

Children who used to spend most of their time away from their parents – at school or with friends – or because one or both parents worked – now spend their time indoors. The majority of families have “discovered themselves” during this process, as constant contact and physical closeness have a significant impact on psychological closeness.

Children have learned many things from their parents, and become more aware of their responsibilities and the tasks they perform, as they live out “reality” in all its details, and they realize, for example, the great work that the mother has done – even the non-working one – both in preparing food, cleaning the house and taking care of his affairs and in all details.

Staying at home during the ban and not going to schools – and adopting distance education – forced many children to take the initiative to help the mother in her various tasks, not the least of which is cleaning their rooms and their own organize tools, and even contribute to organizing the house as well. And many people probably enjoyed it.

Independence is an important lesson and it is a need for a person, and the earlier he learns, the more positive he will be and refine his personality for the benefit of him and his family.

The children have heard a lot about this through the various media and realize the parents’ concern for their children and themselves.

“Self-responsibility” is the basis for the success of family responsibility, even if they are young in age, but their responsibility in prevention is no less than that of adults. Although they are more immune than adults, their responsibility, they have learned, is that they must be a reason to transmit the epidemic to parents and grandparents who are less immune, and also to others. The responsibility is greater than the number of years of life.

In some families, of which one member has contracted the epidemic, it has become the duty of all to be more careful, and to serve others, observing preventive measures, which is a great responsibility. In such cases, the responsibility of the house became one of the children’s tasks.

Unfortunately, some parents did not realize how important it is to invest in these circumstances to establish new positive values ​​in their children, so the children’s dependence on parents increased during that period, either in dependence on parents in studies, so that they even did homework and submitted tests for them, which greatly weakened their academic performance. It is their ability to be independent, which negatively affects their behavior inside and outside the family.

In addition, some parents failed to follow up on the children to serve themselves inside the home, even at a minimum, so that the children’s time was spent sleeping for long hours and engaging in social networking sites in a matter that does not benefit, but rather contributes to killing and wasting time.

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