What do you prefer: a good night’s sleep or sharing a bed with a partner?

What could be more romantic than Paris? The city itself is like a Hallmark. [ماركة عالمية لبطاقات الأعياد والمناسبات], whether in terms of its sparkling lights on the Seine River, or its sidewalks equipped with cafes where you can enjoy drinking a delicious cup of coffee, or its romantic atmosphere that makes you want to hold your partner’s hand as you walk together along the Champs walk- Elysées, or the views you can see, like watching artists gather in the Montmartre neighborhood. But still, if Paris (I mean, in broader terms, France) is considered a mecca or address of love, then why are more and more couples choosing to sleep in it, each separately?

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This is what actually happens and is not really surprising or surprising. Researchers discovered that 10 percent of French cohabiting couples now sleep in different rooms, and another 6 percent would like to – but fear the consequences. According to a study by the French Institute of Public Opinion (IFOP), [وهو شركة دولية لاستطلاعات الرأي وأبحاث السوق] More than 20 percent of couples age 65 and older sleep in separate rooms. But it’s not just the elderly, as reports suggest that more and more young couples are also choosing to sleep in separate beds.

So what’s going on? I have an idea: people choose to prioritize their own well-being (yes, I’ll be honest) over the somewhat sacred belief that, to be truly happy together, you must share a bed, thereby denying a good night’s sacrifice sleep— with all kinds of painful repercussions that come with it.

In any case, studies show that insufficient sleep can affect an individual’s brain’s ability to retain memory, and insomnia can be linked to a weakened immune system.

Science seems to support the idea that our ability to control our emotions declines after a bad night’s sleep, and we now know, based on a 2020 study, that getting less than 6 hours of sleep a night increases the risk of a stroke can increase. Or a 200 percent fatal heart attack. Lack of sleep can also increase the concentration of beta-amyloid in the brain – a toxic protein linked to Alzheimer’s disease – and lack of sleep can increase the risk of bowel, prostate or breast cancer later in life.

On the other hand, getting a good night’s sleep can regulate your blood pressure – and therefore, not getting a good night’s rest can negatively affect your cardiovascular system – as well as give you a little happiness.

Let’s face it realistically: if you have the privilege of being able to sleep anywhere, just like the dead, then congratulations. For my part, I can’t. And of course there are countless others who can’t either – especially when a partner (may) snore, (sometimes) sleep-talk, (quite possibly) throw up in bed and (almost certainly) check his phone. And if you choose to get a good 8 hours of sleep in bed, away from your partner – to improve your health and emotional well-being – that’s a good thing to celebrate.

I am not the only person in a similar situation. I have dozens of friends like me, in their forties, who no longer share a bed with anyone – either because they are single (and enjoy falling asleep in the middle of the bed with legs apart and arms outstretched without to run a risk). elbow in the face), or because they made a conscious decision to sleep peacefully on their own. .

A friend of mine admitted to me in one of my conversations with her, in a tone of guilt, that she wished her partner good night before going to her own room to sleep for the night, and said it was “a clean and quiet room that smelled of lavender”. It seemed a shame to me to admit that you don’t choose to sleep with your partner every night, especially when you’re young. I felt it from the way my friend whispered to me, her guilt prevented her from expressing her thoughts openly.

So what concerns can we have about sleeping apart from our partner? Is it because it might indicate that the relationship is “over” – or is it doomed? Are you worried that this could mean the end of your physical relationship? Is this really what’s happening: people are too afraid that it will stop them from having sex – or highlight their lack of sex?

Consider the alternative: Sleeping apart doesn’t automatically mean the end of a relationship – on the contrary, it can improve it. How? We’ve all read about long-term relationships that are “stale” and that you need to think about adding a new element to them to fix them. What could be more novel than finding another place in the house (or outside) to stay together, away from the old, exhausting routine of sharing a marital bed? Don’t take what I say into account. Hear the experts say the fastest way to rekindle intimacy is to find anywhere but the bedroom to make love.

There are many ways to show someone you love and care – and want them at the same time – without having to put up with them snoring in your ears all night, dealing with their ups and downs in bed, or possibly accidentally kicking them becomes the lower back.

But I will go ahead and say that I simply cannot see it being a good thing for people to openly express their needs in their relationship. And if those needs include a basic eight hours of sleep, maybe we can all learn something from that.

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