Adolescents and privacy.. A personal space that children need and that worries parents

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Amman – Parents struggle with the concept of privacy of teenage children, especially with the rapid developments in a technological world that is open to everything.
That world that allows information to be collected from many sites that are not censored, and to get to know people whose identity or social backgrounds you do not know through communication sites.
Samia’s endless fears about the way her 16-year-old daughter, Rana, stays in her room all the time, always looking for her privacy, and her reactions are incomprehensible to the mother, who sometimes doesn’t know the right way to deal. such situations.
The mother is well aware that the age of adolescence is plagued by the fears of parents, especially in the matter of privacy, closing the door to the room and the password that is constantly on the children’s phones, and sometimes on the applications they use.
Samia finds herself confused because she trusts her daughter, but when she opens any conversation with her, she does not respond easily because she is free and independent and that she is no longer a young girl.
The educator, Dr. Suad Ghaith, says: “One of the most psychological needs that male and female adolescents need is; Independence and a sense of respect for their privacy, and the principle in education is that parents do not inform their children about a lack of self-confidence, despite the many news and difficult events they hear, but the principle is that trust remains present and felt between them.”
Ghaith emphasizes that the key to a cohesive family is always communication. Dialogue and continuity of communication from childhood make it an indispensable habit in old age. However, according to Ghaith, there are families that do not provide communication between them and their children, which builds a big barrier and affects the children’s future.
She confirms that what worries parents the most is the eagerness of male and female adolescents to lock the door of their room, or to put a secret code on their phone, because they believe that something is being hidden from them, and that make doubts arise about themselves, but all of this can be normal in the behavior of adolescents, but it requires dialogue and participation And understand the reasons.
The solution to this problem is dialogue and finding out the reason for this behavior, and for parents to improve their children’s confidence through simple talks and modest dialogue, according to Ghaith.
She explains that there is a useful way for the mother to deal with her children by explaining the situation, for example, “if the mother says that she is afraid of them and she hears many incidents and knows that her children are polite and do not accept not. mistakes and don’t do it, but she wants to look at them and put her in a picture with what happens to them Whatever this thing is, she accepts everything and helps them with a solution, and she is a friend to them and understand their feelings.
Ghaith confirms that in adolescence there is a desire and curiosity to explore, and the origin is to prepare the mother and father in a simple way for the children. Here the mother ensures that they take the correct information from her and avoid taking the information in a wrong and unscientific manner.
Ghaith summarizes by saying that the mother should start with her children by opening the doors of dialogue, paving the way for friendship from childhood, so that she does not find big quarrels in adolescence, and that she studied and understood laws set for everyone, like not sleeping and phones in their hands because they harm the brain, and the door is not closed all the time and that they are an understanding family that respects each other’s privacy without barriers and distances.
She emphasizes how important it is to control the nerves when the son or daughter talks to the parents about any topic, as it really opens the doors, and in the event that a mistake occurs, it can be reversed.
Sociologist Dr. Muhammed Jarebi’, that what distinguishes the stages of growth and entry into the initial or even late adolescence stage is the search for privacy and independence, and they prefer at this stage that parents do not interfere with them as a matter of independence and a not feeling of growth.
Jaribae confirms that each stage has features and characteristics, and in adolescence they find that the closest friends are to them, and sometimes they see that their families do not understand them as they would like.
He points out that adolescence today is different from the past, as a friend is not the only one who forms an aura for a teenager or teenager, as social media has a big role in their lives, and it contains ideas and people who don’t. know who they are in the first place. What is required here is from the people to bring things under control. Continuous dialogue from childhood is the foundation. It is difficult for a teenager or teenager to receive parents’ questions about who they talk to or what they do without a preliminary stage and an open dialogue beforehand. Here, Jaribae confirms that some parents find that dialogue with children is unnecessary and that they want to befriend their children when they grow up, which makes it difficult because the vision changes during the growth stage.
He emphasizes that parents must trust and show this trust in their children, be patient with them, try to restore the relationship and open the door to dialogue on a permanent basis.
While the psychologist, dr. Ali Al-Ghazou, explains that there is a big gap between parents and children, and the discussion here is about electronic gaps, which sometimes interrupt the dialogue, but the main point in the relationship between parents and their teenage children and the disputes that take place is that not everyone takes their role seriously Grandpa.
What the invasion means is that one of the main tasks of the mother and father is to sit and talk with their children, open up and be transparent about many issues, receive the children’s ideas and work to correct them. set by watching family TV and commenting on them, and tell stories that happened and are happening to build self-confidence, as it is important to improve self-confidence and the family.
But what happens today in many families and the many obligations is that parents let their children live in complete freedom with many family pressures and obligations, which cools the relationship between them and when they want to impose control again, the relationship is dry and devoid of acceptance, according to the invasion. And he continues, it negatively affects the children’s behavior and the lack of knowledge of the events in their lives, which negatively affects the issue of privacy when you find the children’s separation from the family and living details on their own, such as their devotion to their room, their phones, their friends and their own world.

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